As adults, making and keeping friends can be challenging. Some people find friends at work because they see them daily, but others like to keep work and friendships separate.
On TikTok, a woman expressed her preference to avoid making office friendships. While she’s content discussing only work matters, a co-worker was upset by her reluctance to chat about personal topics, sparking a debate on workplace boundaries and personal choices. Read on for the full story.
No Friends In The Office
In September 2023, Samantha Clarke, an employee who worked part-time in a doctor’s office handling billing, navigated an awkward situation involving a co-worker’s off-hours friendship proposition.
During an elevator ride, her co-worker admitted to not “really know[ing]” Samantha and extended an invite to dinner, believing they could “make great friends outside of work.” The co-worker also hoped to amend their apparently rocky rapport, acknowledging they “got off on the wrong foot.”
However, Samantha, adhering to her policy, had to “kindly decline” the offer, clarifying she doesn’t “socialize with my co-workers outside of my work.” Her resolute boundary was deemed “aggressive” by the co-worker.
The Boss’s Interference
Samantha encountered further complications the day after the elevator incident. Upon arriving at work, her boss, the doctor owning the practice, discussed the emotional state of her co-worker—who had visited his office “crying hysterically” over Samantha’s refusal of the dinner invitation, labeling her “aggressive” and accusing her of shooting “dirty looks.”
Samantha responded assertively, questioning why her co-worker’s emotional response was her responsibility. Despite her boss’s appeal for her to “entertain” the co-worker by accepting the dinner invite, Samantha stood firm, ultimately submitting her resignation.
In reflection, she powerfully stated: “Listen, let me say this: For all of y’all out there who go to work thinking your co-workers have to be your friends, they don’t,” and chastised her boss and co-worker’s “unprofessional behavior,” advising listeners to “Do better.”
Public Response
Samantha’s story resonated with many, garnering support from TikTok users who agreed with her approach to maintaining strict professional boundaries at the workplace.
One stated, “Hanging out with co-workers is always just trouble. I’ll be friendly, but not your best friend.” Another mentioned avoiding social connections with co-workers on platforms like social media.
A third added, “Boom! *Mic drop. Thats why businesses should have competent mgrs/supervisors that know how to navigate issues like this. The MD clearly lacked that.”
This story evokes a broader conversation about respecting personal boundaries within the workplace, with many hoping Samantha finds a new job where her social boundaries are respected.
The incident opens up a broader discussion about the expectations and boundaries in workplace relationships. While some might find genuine friendships within their professional circles, others, like Samantha, prefer to keep a clear demarcation between their work and personal lives.
The expectation to form friendships with coworkers, and moreover, the intervention of employers in such matters, raises questions about autonomy, professionalism, and the ethics of navigating interpersonal dynamics in a work setting. Common knowledge might suggest that forming friendships at work is beneficial, yet recent studies indicate that relationships with coworkers are now among the least crucial factors in job satisfaction.
Furthermore, establishing friendships at work can distract from vital aspects, such as building a valuable network of coworkers, avoiding day-to-day drama, and maintaining clear distinctions between genuine friends and colleagues.
The Complex Dynamics of Workplace Friendships
It’s essential to recognize that real friendships, where you can be your authentic self and have developed a deep, mutual relationship over time, differ significantly from workplace relationships, which can become complex due to socio-economic factors.
When financial aspects are involved, it can cloud potential friendships, making the lines between genuine and contrived relationships blurry. Keeping clear boundaries at work prevents the worry about whom to trust and who has our best interest in mind.
Moreover, it avoids transferring our best interests to anyone else simply because we assume they are our friends. Investing in professional relationships, which should be based on mutual respect and a willingness to collaborate to complete projects, can be deeply satisfying and meaningful without delving into the personal realm.
This approach enhances well-being and creates a more harmonious and productive work environment.
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- psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-psychology-of-creativity/202306/why-you-should-not-make-friends-at-work
- indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/coworkers-friends
- medium.com/nice-work-from-active-voice/not-here-to-make-friends-c304172d94de
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This article was produced and syndicated by Viral Chatter. It was inspired by this video:
@samanthaclarke29Its the fact that people think just cause someone is in the same office with you 8/9 hours a day they are required to be your friend is silly♬ original sound – Samantha Clarke
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