‘I’m a server, not a servant.’ A Tale of Rudeness & Misplaced Priorities

In an age where customer service is paramount, a recent encounter between a server named Amanda and a demanding customer serves as a stark reminder of the challenges faced by those in the service industry.

When a customer’s urgent plea for her diabetic mother’s needs took a surprising twist, Amanda’s response shed light on something different. Dive into this account of an evening that went from routine to remarkable.

The Incident

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Amanda, a server at a restaurant, narrated an incident where a woman, her mother, and her husband walked into the restaurant while it was busy.

Despite being told to wait at the bar, the party seated themselves at a table in Amanda’s section.

The woman’s behavior quickly escalated to rudeness. Amanda approached the table and politely asked them to move so she could clean it, to which the woman curtly responded,

“My mom needs to eat. She needs to eat right now. She’s diabetic; she needs to eat.”

Despite Amanda’s assurance of bringing bread for the table, the woman impatiently retorted, “You don’t understand.”

The Unpleasant Exchange

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As Amanda hurried to serve the table, she was confronted by the woman demanding silverware while assisting a man in a wheelchair.

Amanda noticed that the woman, concerned about her diabetic mother, was the first to eat the bread brought to the table.

Amanda expressed her frustration in a video, questioning the woman’s priorities,

“Your mom is such a diabetic, but you feed yourself before her?”

She then ends her video with:

“Y’all need to get a hold of yourselves. 02:40, I’m a server, not a servant.”

The Aftermath

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The customer’s rudeness persisted throughout the meal, leaving Amanda feeling disheartened and almost seeking a manager to take over her table.

Amanda’s video sharing the incident had many expressing their sympathy and sharing their own experiences of mistreatment in the service industry.

Her experience is a testament to the ongoing issue of the mistreatment of service industry workers, many of whom are turning to various platforms to air their grievances and share their encounters with unruly customers.

Handling Rude Customers: Strategies for Resolution

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Dealing with rude customers is an inevitable aspect of customer service roles. It’s crucial to maintain professionalism and use effective communication skills to resolve tense situations.

Empathy plays a significant role in diffusing situations; understanding and relating to the customer’s feelings can help establish rapport and provide a foundation for resolving the issue.

Active listening is another essential strategy, allowing you to understand the root of the customer’s frustration and work towards a solution.

If faced with a significant issue, breaking it down into smaller, manageable parts can make the resolution process smoother and less overwhelming for you and the customer.

Offering Solutions & Maintaining Professionalism

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Offering prompt and effective solutions is vital in handling rude customers. Apologize for the inconvenience and present possible solutions to their problems.

If the customer is unsatisfied with the proposed solutions, review internal policies to explore alternative options that may be more acceptable to them.

It’s also essential to act quickly to demonstrate that you take their concerns seriously, which can help build trust and ensure customer loyalty.

Maintaining politeness, staying calm, and thanking the customer for their feedback is crucial in managing interactions with rude customers, contributing to a more positive and productive conversation.

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This article was produced and syndicated by Viral Chatter. It was inspired by this video:

@amandacaye88 I’ve been in the serving industry for 7 years and this lady was just wild. #servertok#restuaranttok#serverlife#serverproblems #karensgoingwild #resturantstories
♬ original sound – Amanda Caye

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