Dating Based on Potential: “Been there, done that. Don’t do it.”

The intricate dance of relationships often revolves around the allure of potential. While the idea of discovering and nurturing untapped qualities in a partner can be enticing, it’s essential to tread with caution.

A recent TikTok video has sparked a debate on the merits and pitfalls of dating based on potential. Dive into the complexities of this dynamic, where the hope for a brighter future meets the realities of the present, and explore the delicate balance required to cultivate genuine, lasting connections.

Uncovering Potential

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“If I was a woman in a lifetime, I think what I would probably do is look at men like stock before everybody found out that it was a good stock.”

The analogy of evaluating men like stock encourages individuals to look beyond surface-level judgments and consider the hidden qualities in potential partners.

Just as successful investors identify promising opportunities before they become popular, recognizing the untapped potential in others can lead to meaningful connections.

By shifting focus away from societal expectations, individuals can explore values, passions, and aspirations to uncover unique qualities that may have been overlooked. Relationships, like investments, require patience and effort to nurture and grow.

Embracing this perspective promotes a more inclusive and understanding society that values qualities not readily apparent to the world.

The Quest for the ‘Stud’

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“But I would try to find a guy who’s a stud that I know is a stud before the rest of the world does.”

The video creator suggests pursuing a partner who embodies the qualities of a “stud” before they become widely recognized by society.

This strategy aims to secure a desirable partner with attractive attributes and demonstrated success. However, it comes with potential risks and may overlook important factors such as compatibility, shared values, and emotional connection.

A balanced approach is recommended, considering both external qualities and internal compatibility for a fulfilling and sustainable relationship.

True relationship success is built on mutual understanding, trust, and genuine connections beyond superficial attributes.

Navigating the Risks

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“The problem is in the need for the feminine to get its needs met. It very often destroys the masculine energy that they wanted.”

The potential conflict between meeting feminine needs and maintaining masculine energy in a relationship.

However, it is essential to strike a balance that promotes mutual growth. This emphasizes the importance of the woman supporting her partner’s personal development while nurturing a healthy relationship.

This requires conscious effort, open communication, and empathy. By fostering an environment of mutual support and growth, couples can create a strong and fulfilling connection.

Comments from The Viewers

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The power of the internet has given rise to a digital age where ideas and opinions collide, often showcased through the comments section.

Some caution against the idea of dating based on potential,

“But if you do this, he can become successful and then wants to trade up (happens a lot)”

There are concerns about resentment and the expectation that women should not have to elevate their partners,

“You meet that “potential,” and then when he rises, he replaces you bc he’s resentful of the growth he had to make with you.”

These commenters advise against dating potential and suggest that individuals should seek partners already on their level or above,

“Is not my job to bring up a dude to be on my level. He’s either on my level, above my level or he’s not worth my time.”

These viewpoints emphasize the importance of finding compatibility and equality in relationships rather than relying solely on potential,

“Been there, done that. Don’t do it. They trade. Bad decision. Don’t date potential.”

Is Dating by Potential Worthwhile?

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Dating based on potential involves looking beyond a person’s current situation and accomplishments to assess their future prospects. While there are no specific studies on this topic, it’s essential to consider a few key factors. [1]

Compatibility is crucial, as shared long-term goals and values indicate a higher likelihood of relationship success. However, it’s important to maintain realistic expectations, recognizing that potential doesn’t always guarantee actual success. Striking a balance between acknowledging potential and assessing current actions and efforts is essential. [2]

Dating someone with potential can be beneficial, as a supportive relationship can inspire personal growth and goal attainment. Both partners should be committed to their individual development and not rely solely on each other.

Effective communication about aspirations, expectations, and future plans is vital to understanding each other’s visions and providing support.

Ultimately, a successful relationship requires a combination of present compatibility and shared visions for the future.

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