Woman Announces Pregnancy & Calls Sister-in-Law a B..ch

Family gatherings can either be a beautiful or messy affair. For one Reddit user, her and her husband’s family did not receive the pregnancy announcement very well.

What was supposed to be an exciting occasion quickly turned sour before it even began.

Expecting

The OP (Original Poster) and her husband are thrilled to finally be expecting after having multiple miscarriages in the past. She has been wearing baggy clothes to hide her bump. At 24 weeks, she and her husband were ready to announce the pregnancy with a gender reveal.

Baby Ban

Her sister-in-law is infertile. And while she was sympathetic enough towards her, she thinks the family handled her situation pathetically. Because of her SIL’s inability to get pregnant and have children, no pregnancy announcements were allowed, and children five years old and below cannot attend family events.

Gender Reveal

At their last doctor’s appointment, they asked the doctor for an envelope with the baby’s gender. They hosted a gathering where they would announce the pregnancy and reveal the gender of the baby. Her SIL arrived with her husband and was angry when she found out that the gathering was for a pregnancy announcement.

Heads Up?

SIL then asks her why she didn’t give a heads-up despite knowing how she feels about these things. The OP tells her that she didn’t have to tell her SIL anything and she “didn’t have to be such a b.*ch about it.” Her SIL storms out. She also ghosted and blocked the OP from all of her socials.

ESH

The majority of Redditors seem to agree that everyone was in the wrong in this situation.

One user commented, “They definitely made things so much worse by outright banning children and pregnancy announcements. What exactly is that supposed to do for the SIL besides ostracizing those family members who have kids? Do they just not get to be there because it may trigger her? That being said, the OP still could’ve been way more considerate before throwing a huge party and inviting them without a heads-up.”

Happiness and Compassion

A Redditor who also cannot have a baby expressed how compassion would’ve been the way to go. “You are NTA for being happy about and celebrating your news. You didn’t take a baby away from her. Your in-laws can also be happy about a niece/nephew/grandchild. However, compassion was, for me, my family telling me privately they were expecting before a surprise announcement to the broader family. Gave me time to digest it and respond with the honest joy I had for them.”

Source: Reddit